This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Andrew Dicuffa who was born in Florida on April 11, 1986 and passed away on December 28, 2005 . We will remember him forever. He lost his dad in 1995 and became an outstanding young man,doing his best to take care of his brother and mom. A.J. graduated from CNS in 2004 where he was an avid basketball player.He always had to be #1 and did his best in every endeavor.He treasured his friends of which he had many. Always givin good advice and being the center of attention.
February 12, 2008
A.J. Continues to touch hearts
Debbie Vicari, singer/songwriter, who resides in Hollywood, Ca heard of A.J. through a dear friend. Debbie viewed this site and has created a YouTube music/video slideshow dedicated to A.J. and all who have continued onward.
Debbie posted A.J.s tribute and in less than 5 hours it had reached the top 100 of music videos viewed on YouTube and currently is 11th place in music videos posted in the last 24 hours.
Thank-you Debbie
Please view DebbieVicari's YouTube tribute at the below link.
"You are the wind beneath my wings" / Melissa (Friend/Fam)
"Wind Beneath My Wings" It must have been cold there in my shadow, to never have sunlight on your face. You were content to let me shine, that's your way. You always walked a step behind. So I was the one with all the glory, while you were ...
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you have to go to the audio list.... / Melissa (family)
the list on the left is full....you have to go in audio!!!!!
Tony's song to AJ -LISTEN to Imagine If- / Melissa (Family)
OK EVERYONE.....go to the audio and listen to the track Tony just did for AJ......It's just the beginning....Tony is doing all this for his brother. He has never gave up on his music because he knows AJ wouldn't have wanted him to. They had big plans...
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Waiting Just Waiting / Valerie DiCuffa (Mama)
Son I know I can spill my feelings here cause very seldom does anyone seek the comfort of you And I won't have to worry about J.R. reading my thoughts cause he never goes in here. I wish I could talk to him but I just can't talk about you theses...
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Happy 25th / Valerie DiCuffa (mama)
Hi son as you know I tried twice to send you a birthday message and somehow it wouldn't go through saying wrong code in which I checked and re-checked and code was right anyway you know my thoughts on that day so no sense in repeating what prob...
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This is the second poem A.J. WROTE FOR HIS MOM! There's things I can't explain with so many years left; so much knowledge to gain You taught me how to tie my shoes;and how cookies are much better warm. You kept me safe from the tempest of the world, through the calm of the raging storm. Now, i,m almost grown up, making decisions of my own,and some of them are bad, thats already known. You,ve been there since day one pushing and pulling,watching me grow.And since I was young you had the answers I wanted to know. Through thick and thin, good and bad,you' ve always been there by my side. I've been scolded enough. We've had problems before but please this let's work it out because now we can't slam the door. I'm asking you MOM as I've done so many times in the past, hopefully this time will be the last. I need you MOM ,your thoughts, your words, and motherly love, Because I know I'll Love you forever and hopefully thats enough.
XOXOXO Love Always, your son A.J.
MY PRECIOUS SON This birthday of yours my son is the saddest by far. For this is the day in earthly years... that you become a man.,and for ever my shinning star.
The 19 in a half years you spent with us...Each and Everyone was Special ...Just Because. Every year you've given me more joy then the year before, the joy of watching you grow, and loving you more.
The night before the lord took your soul, you visited us to say good-bye. Why you left us so suddenly, I'll never understand why. My son the pain of you not being here is a feeling no mother should have to endure..
I miss you so much I can't possibly explain..,The toll or amount of this emotional pain. Our life without you seems so unfair,my days are so empty and filled with despair. The first thought when I awake to start my day. Is help me Lord, tell me why my son went away.
The truth is still known on the other side. The ones who found you tried to spare me ,so they lied.I'll always remember you with that smerk on your face,I'll have to hold on to ('your in a better place )Wishing you Special Birthday's now and forever more We'll always celebrate it together.. I'll never close the door. Happy Birthday Son Forever & Always Your mom, 2007
The Uniqueness of his Soul On December 28th 2005 my son A.J. chose to end his life. So they try to convince me of this. There really is no proof, just the police assumption, and the autopsy. I will someday have the answer,whatever it may be I will always have to live with the not knowing why! A.J. knew he was loved by many. He was the center of our lives, and we'll always love him Unconditionally. I remember the love in A.J.'S eyes when he first fell in love with a beautiful Italian girl name Lisa. He had many friends in high school,and was #1 in many hearts young and old. When he left high school he went into a different world, beyond his control. He did everything in his power to turn his life around. His words of wisdom was far more mature then most 19 year olds'. In fact even from an earlier age everyone was asking A.J. for his opinion and help. A.J. lost his dad at the age of 9, from brain cancer (5 days after A.J. turned 9 ) He truly believed that it was up to him to take care of his younger brother and mom. He was so wise beyond his years I know god has him doing what he's always done best Make others feel good about themselves When you read all the tributes and condolences in his web site,you'll see that's not just words from a proud mom whom is so proud to have him for my son. Others feel the uniqueness of his soul. There is a song from Boyz II men ,that A.J. said will always be his song to me (A SONG FOR MAMA )
continue the uniqueness of his soul Well i must of hit a button that stoped it from continueing and dont want to start all over so heres the conclusion: He would sing the song to me, mainly the main line is MAMA YOUR LIKE FOOD TO MY SOUL ! WHAT A MEMORY THIS BOY OF MINE HAS LEFT ME. I'm so greatful with all the years I was given to be blessed by such an outstanding child. We always spoke our I LOVE YOU, before going about our day ,would often call just to say I love you!!!!!!!!!!!! That is something eveyone should do as often as you can because you never know when this world will wisp you away. Thank-you all who contribute to his web site and is helping me keep my sons memory ALIVE! VALERIE DICUFFA
RECOVERY
God grant me the serenity,I know I can change. With him on my side nothing is out of range. I know already I'm in the right place. Such a step up with the charges I face.. I've opened my eyes to a brand new game,everyone here feels we're in the same. Can't watch my life SLIP AWAY in just a few seconds, I think by now I should have learned my lessons. Thankful already that I have my buddy,When I'm gone always remember he's funny. Come and go as I choose, with a few smoke breaks, I'm willing to do, whatever it takes. Could'nt be more thankful for all the good food. The lunch ladies put me in the happiest mood. Thankful even more for such little things, folks,straws,yogart, and my freedom are easy to bring. The nurses look out for what's best for me. They know what they're doing its easy to see. If I have a problem it's easy to call, the consouler will catch me before i fall. Couldn't imagine people would be so nice, but then again we all made the same sacrifice. Thought my life was through cause I lived it selling crack. But I think now the world wants me back. With all the crimes I comitted I wanna run and hide I'm a big boy now, I can not keep my feelings inside. So now that I have paid the price it's time to start my brand new life. Glad to start off on a fresh foot, Thinking of all the bull that I done took. When I'm free to do my best to act the right way. But no other place then Tully Hill I'd like to stay. April 2005 A.J. DI CUFFA
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